tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26538027.post429070515262707023..comments2024-01-30T14:16:38.219+11:00Comments on PsychoBabble: When news is badHPhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09409589783052980600noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26538027.post-29269019652276874702007-09-19T04:20:00.000+10:002007-09-19T04:20:00.000+10:00Good post HP. I've written from the other perspec...Good post HP. I've written from the other perspective -- wondering why people drop off the face of the earth in these serious situations. I truly believe that it starts off as an anxiety about what to say/saying the wrong things and just snowballs into feeling uncomfortable about avoiding the issue for so long. <BR/><BR/>Even though I know I'll say the wrong things, I try to remind myself to just stay in touch.PGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02160883537054763513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26538027.post-51502800223738374982007-09-18T07:43:00.000+10:002007-09-18T07:43:00.000+10:00Hey PA,I've had that exact same reaction to bad ne...Hey PA,<BR/>I've had that exact same reaction to bad news..I started laughing and you're right...it's a nervous reaction simply because you don't know what to do with what you're feeling...I mean you generically, not you specifically :) Early morning and I need a coffee or two...HPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09409589783052980600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26538027.post-69824601920993696322007-09-18T07:22:00.000+10:002007-09-18T07:22:00.000+10:00I think you raise a really good point here. I bel...I think you raise a really good point here. I believe I read somewhere else that this is also a very good thing for physicians to do--listen to their patients when they need to talk--simply listen.<BR/><BR/>Yes, that can be difficult when they may not have the time but if it is a serious illness, no doubt they will be seeing some kind of specialist and then that physician should be able to make the time?<BR/><BR/>I don't think any response is inappropriate either. From shock to tears to blurting out exactly what you said or whatever. I haven't had to deal with this type of news but when I've heard bad news, I've started laughing! Now that is a very common response to something shocking...yes it sounds "funny" but it is. It's like this bizarre nervous reaction because you don't know what to do.<BR/><BR/>Talk about <I>where</I> is your frontal lobe? How about <I>what on earth</I> is your frontal lobe doing? Well, it's just busy trying to crawl deeper into your limbic system! Which seems to be doing flip flops. But that's okay...the limbic system is known for being unpredictable anyway *rolls eyes*<BR/><BR/>Point is, yes, listen, be supportive and if the other person doesn't know what to say then try to offer up the best you can verbally. And if they're your friend, they'll understand what you are saying or trying to say anyway.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com